JTF,

Aah, it works depending on who you're dealing with AND the situation. Since you know your daughter, maybe you can come up with a plan that will work. Good luck!

Murphdogg,

Her theory only works in certain situations...

He wants the kids, but can't hanld them... Yup. Works.

She wants you to do the laundry and you fuck her clothes up... Yup. Works.

She wants to visit her family... Yup. Works (if her sister is a stripper.)

She wants to have a baby and get married... Nope. Don't work.

:lol:

deepseas, dear sweet lawd your a mastermind!

deepseas,

She'd never buy it. She thinks too much like me sometimes...

Everybody knows that I'd be the type of celebrity that would be punching out photographers...

But I love what you pulled on the ex! And you got to have a few weeks of free time on top of it!

:lol:

tis2flyyy,

I could go there and raise all holy hell. Bitch about everything. Threaten violence. Be arrested. Go to prison...

All that would do, even just the 1st part ;) is reestablish what is already known: that I'm against it. But it would accomplish nothing.

You can go to Burger King and tell then "No Pickles." You can remind them "No Pickles." You can even tell them that if you find one pickle on that goddamn Whopper that you're coming back and killing everybody. It still doesn't change the fact that you're going to bite into a pickle...

JTF,
does this happen every year?......I seem to remember your ex wanted her to be a model once before

JTF,
Maybe set some hard core regulations? Like if she keeps up a top notch GPA, toes the line, etc. she could model part-time when she turns 15? Yeah, I know, you're gonna be the hated bad ass...but in the long run, well,it's for the best.
And you ARE her parent!!
The world is so fukd up the way it is, that a 13 year old can get into sooooo much shit, plus education gets flung right out the door when a kid gets those $$$stars$$$ in their eyes and figures "why bother to go to school when I'm makin the big bucks!"
I sure don't envy your position...I remember very well what I was like at 13...13 goin' on 22...smokin', dopin' & drinkin'....I traveled more throughout the country between the ages of 13 and 16 than I ever have since! I loathed school and skipped as much as possible, defied authority and chose to do things my way.
I would really hate to have your dilemma...just remembering my own party daze, I know I'd feel like locking my kid up just so I could keep them from makin' all the same mistakes I did! Lol!
I think one of the things that had the greatest impact on me was my Mom, her straight-up way of bein' with me, straight talk and she never bullshitted me. We had trust and a deep bond and I wanted to live up to her trust. Regardless of where I was, I always called home and never let her sit & worry...and as a result my path changed.It meant the world to me knowing I could count on her...without judgment.I knew she had my back no matter what and vice versa.
I think the best way to connect with your daughter is to be straight up...and talk a LOT! Just never let there be a communication breakdown and intervene right away if there appears to be a roadblock & find out what's causing it. Taking an interest in stuff she's into, for real, and being her confidante and friend as well as parent will go a long way in bridging any gap in communication.
Maybe you'll find that she wants to model enough that she's willing to toe the line and do a lot of compromising...OR maybe you'll discover that modeling is her Mom's dream for her but not so much her own desire!
13 year olds can be as vehemently opposed to something today as they were in favor of it yesterday...Lol!
So, again, I say....I do not envy you this! Lol!
But....just go with the flow & feel your way...groping along....like every parent inevitably must! Lol!
Greatest luck.....
Keep hangin' in there!
Koda
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JTF,


Good thoughts. But if your a supporting this child, you can do WAY more than that. You need to go over to your ex's house and put the smack down., Refulate that shit....don't let her set your baby up for some society bs.

I am radical and always ready to raise hell.

Trudy,

About the only thing I can do is warn her about the evils of society and how people will lie to her to get what thet want.

Then, I can pray...

JTF,

Here's what I would do...When you schedule to see your daughter (ain't that shit you have to schedule that), tell you you want to take her and her best friend(s) out for dinner. That's when you ask her. She will be up front with you cause her girlfriend will be there and they will have those knowing little looks at each other. You will either get an earfull of how exciting modeling is or you will get a "huh, what are you talking about" response.

Trudy