So along with a list of things that my daughter wants for Christmas, her mother sends me links to some shots that she took modeling. Mer mother has wanted her to model since she was a baby. She has seemingly taken her down just about every "Your Child Could Be A Star!" road possible, so this comes as no shock.
Some of the shots look like a young teenager (She's 13 in less than two weeks,) yet most have that trying to be an adult look to them.
The pics came with the obligatory note that my daughter wants me to see the pics and hopes I like them. Of course, I have never heard my daughter even mention modeling, but I'm sure that's simpy an oversight on her part.
I can't even respond to her mother about the pics. If I do, I can't lie and say "Wow, they look great!" since I really think "How long until she's doing a photo shoot with some 50 year old pervert who tells her that all models do coke, and show a little more skin." And if I say that, it starts WW3.
Ahh, the joys of parenthood.
I feel violently ill.
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Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
oh gawd, the stage mom.
pretty bad situation for a teenager to be caught up in if the road being literally pushed down is not her goal.
if/when you get some alone time w/your daughter, just ask her directly. if she can't speak because she's under stage mom hostage then there's your answer as well. because if it was something your daughter was so passionate about, you'd have known of it long beforehand.
oh gawd, the stage mom.
pretty bad situation for a teenager to be caught up in if the road being literally pushed down is not her goal.if/when you get some alone time w/your daughter, just ask her directly. if she can't speak because she's under stage mom hostage then there's your answer as well. because if it was something your daughter was so passionate about, you'd have known of it long beforehand.
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huh? what? who? damn, I'm always the last to know.
huh? what? who? damn, I'm always the last to know.
Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
Well, I do not kow what to say here. But, you must try to regulate this, somehow.
I have an idea....oh I know......
To aid in preventing WW3, a couple of my homegirlz can fly out that way and shake the shit out her (the Mom), if you want. In the midst of shaking her uo a little, they can convey to her that she betta watch out there now!!!!
I am just kidding, you know this right?![]:o)](./images/smilies/lildevil.gif "Devil")
Parenthood is a BEE-YOTCH - there is just no other way around it and no getting by it. You just havr to DEAL with it. Think on the bright side, maybe your daughter will bore of this before to long and move on to her next interest. Like playing tennis or ice skating. Maybe you can try suggesting some interesting outing with her to spark her attentions elsewhere.
Well, I do not kow what to say here. But, you must try to regulate this, somehow.
I have an idea....oh I know......
To aid in preventing WW3, a couple of my homegirlz can fly out that way and shake the shit out her (the Mom), if you want. In the midst of shaking her uo a little, they can convey to her that she betta watch out there now!!!!
I am just kidding, you know this right?
Parenthood is a BEE-YOTCH - there is just no other way around it and no getting by it. You just havr to DEAL with it. Think on the bright side, maybe your daughter will bore of this before to long and move on to her next interest. Like playing tennis or ice skating. Maybe you can try suggesting some interesting outing with her to spark her attentions elsewhere.
Where is the LOVE?
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Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
Here's what I would do...When you schedule to see your daughter (ain't that shit you have to schedule that), tell you you want to take her and her best friend(s) out for dinner. That's when you ask her. She will be up front with you cause her girlfriend will be there and they will have those knowing little looks at each other. You will either get an earfull of how exciting modeling is or you will get a "huh, what are you talking about" response.
Trudy
Here's what I would do...When you schedule to see your daughter (ain't that shit you have to schedule that), tell you you want to take her and her best friend(s) out for dinner. That's when you ask her. She will be up front with you cause her girlfriend will be there and they will have those knowing little looks at each other. You will either get an earfull of how exciting modeling is or you will get a "huh, what are you talking about" response.
Trudy
Re: I feel violently ill.
Trudy,
About the only thing I can do is warn her about the evils of society and how people will lie to her to get what thet want.
Then, I can pray...
About the only thing I can do is warn her about the evils of society and how people will lie to her to get what thet want.
Then, I can pray...
Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
Good thoughts. But if your a supporting this child, you can do WAY more than that. You need to go over to your ex's house and put the smack down., Refulate that shit....don't let her set your baby up for some society bs.
I am radical and always ready to raise hell.
Good thoughts. But if your a supporting this child, you can do WAY more than that. You need to go over to your ex's house and put the smack down., Refulate that shit....don't let her set your baby up for some society bs.
I am radical and always ready to raise hell.
Where is the LOVE?
Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
Maybe set some hard core regulations? Like if she keeps up a top notch GPA, toes the line, etc. she could model part-time when she turns 15? Yeah, I know, you're gonna be the hated bad ass...but in the long run, well,it's for the best.
And you ARE her parent!!
The world is so fukd up the way it is, that a 13 year old can get into sooooo much shit, plus education gets flung right out the door when a kid gets those $$$stars$$$ in their eyes and figures "why bother to go to school when I'm makin the big bucks!"
I sure don't envy your position...I remember very well what I was like at 13...13 goin' on 22...smokin', dopin' & drinkin'....I traveled more throughout the country between the ages of 13 and 16 than I ever have since! I loathed school and skipped as much as possible, defied authority and chose to do things my way.
I would really hate to have your dilemma...just remembering my own party daze, I know I'd feel like locking my kid up just so I could keep them from makin' all the same mistakes I did! Lol!
I think one of the things that had the greatest impact on me was my Mom, her straight-up way of bein' with me, straight talk and she never bullshitted me. We had trust and a deep bond and I wanted to live up to her trust. Regardless of where I was, I always called home and never let her sit & worry...and as a result my path changed.It meant the world to me knowing I could count on her...without judgment.I knew she had my back no matter what and vice versa.
I think the best way to connect with your daughter is to be straight up...and talk a LOT! Just never let there be a communication breakdown and intervene right away if there appears to be a roadblock & find out what's causing it. Taking an interest in stuff she's into, for real, and being her confidante and friend as well as parent will go a long way in bridging any gap in communication.
Maybe you'll find that she wants to model enough that she's willing to toe the line and do a lot of compromising...OR maybe you'll discover that modeling is her Mom's dream for her but not so much her own desire!
13 year olds can be as vehemently opposed to something today as they were in favor of it yesterday...Lol!
So, again, I say....I do not envy you this! Lol!
But....just go with the flow & feel your way...groping along....like every parent inevitably must! Lol!
Greatest luck.....
Keep hangin' in there!
Koda
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Maybe set some hard core regulations? Like if she keeps up a top notch GPA, toes the line, etc. she could model part-time when she turns 15? Yeah, I know, you're gonna be the hated bad ass...but in the long run, well,it's for the best.
And you ARE her parent!!
The world is so fukd up the way it is, that a 13 year old can get into sooooo much shit, plus education gets flung right out the door when a kid gets those $$$stars$$$ in their eyes and figures "why bother to go to school when I'm makin the big bucks!"
I sure don't envy your position...I remember very well what I was like at 13...13 goin' on 22...smokin', dopin' & drinkin'....I traveled more throughout the country between the ages of 13 and 16 than I ever have since! I loathed school and skipped as much as possible, defied authority and chose to do things my way.
I would really hate to have your dilemma...just remembering my own party daze, I know I'd feel like locking my kid up just so I could keep them from makin' all the same mistakes I did! Lol!
I think one of the things that had the greatest impact on me was my Mom, her straight-up way of bein' with me, straight talk and she never bullshitted me. We had trust and a deep bond and I wanted to live up to her trust. Regardless of where I was, I always called home and never let her sit & worry...and as a result my path changed.It meant the world to me knowing I could count on her...without judgment.I knew she had my back no matter what and vice versa.
I think the best way to connect with your daughter is to be straight up...and talk a LOT! Just never let there be a communication breakdown and intervene right away if there appears to be a roadblock & find out what's causing it. Taking an interest in stuff she's into, for real, and being her confidante and friend as well as parent will go a long way in bridging any gap in communication.
Maybe you'll find that she wants to model enough that she's willing to toe the line and do a lot of compromising...OR maybe you'll discover that modeling is her Mom's dream for her but not so much her own desire!
13 year olds can be as vehemently opposed to something today as they were in favor of it yesterday...Lol!
So, again, I say....I do not envy you this! Lol!
But....just go with the flow & feel your way...groping along....like every parent inevitably must! Lol!
Greatest luck.....
Keep hangin' in there!
Koda
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Re: I feel violently ill.
JTF,
does this happen every year?......I seem to remember your ex wanted her to be a model once before
does this happen every year?......I seem to remember your ex wanted her to be a model once before
Re: I feel violently ill.
tis2flyyy,
I could go there and raise all holy hell. Bitch about everything. Threaten violence. Be arrested. Go to prison...
All that would do, even just the 1st part
is reestablish what is already known: that I'm against it. But it would accomplish nothing.
You can go to Burger King and tell then "No Pickles." You can remind them "No Pickles." You can even tell them that if you find one pickle on that goddamn Whopper that you're coming back and killing everybody. It still doesn't change the fact that you're going to bite into a pickle...
I could go there and raise all holy hell. Bitch about everything. Threaten violence. Be arrested. Go to prison...
All that would do, even just the 1st part
is reestablish what is already known: that I'm against it. But it would accomplish nothing.You can go to Burger King and tell then "No Pickles." You can remind them "No Pickles." You can even tell them that if you find one pickle on that goddamn Whopper that you're coming back and killing everybody. It still doesn't change the fact that you're going to bite into a pickle...
Re: I feel violently ill.
deepseas,
She'd never buy it. She thinks too much like me sometimes...
Everybody knows that I'd be the type of celebrity that would be punching out photographers...
But I love what you pulled on the ex! And you got to have a few weeks of free time on top of it!
She'd never buy it. She thinks too much like me sometimes...
Everybody knows that I'd be the type of celebrity that would be punching out photographers...
But I love what you pulled on the ex! And you got to have a few weeks of free time on top of it!
