by tis2flyyy » Wed Jan 11, 2006 10:54 am
smjmcomic,
Hey baby, I sent you a PM earlier and you told me about this. I was really sad for you. So young, so senseless.
The first thing I did was say a prayer for her and her family.....and for you too.
Baby, I know that you are hurting. I know that you are feeling mighty bad. Nothing we can say in these posts is going to take away your hurt. We only will try to ease it some, ok?
But I want you to remember something. You are STILL here. Honor this dear sweet young lady by living your young life to the fullest. Celebrate her life everyday. Celebrate your own life everyday.
I know you want to massacre that dirty bastard azz drunk driver, please believe, they will get theirs. I hope they go to jail - for a very long time. If you want to put your energies into something, put your energy into getting his azz prosecuted.
When grief is overwhelming, it really helps to put your energies into doing something positive. There are support groups in your area that you can join. I know you may not feel like talking and sharing with a bunch of people you don't know, so take your time, but know that this is an option.
Also, I am right up the road from you. All you have to do is holla, and I will be there. & that is real deal holyfield.
Remember, We Love you SMJM, and we are always here for you, no matter what day or hour.
Stay strong, keep your heap up, My prayers are with you, always.
Before I sign off, I want to tell you this. I have a friend, Richard Marcus is his name. I speak of him as if he is still here, but he has gone on to his heavenly reward.
When I was in my late teens, early twenty's, trying to raise my young son and go to college at the same time, this man - I met him through some church friends. He is the uncle of a girl I took under my wing like a lil' sister. Well, Mr. Marcus, who was significantly older than I, inserted himself in my life like a second father figure. We just clicked liked that. Said he had respect for a young woman trying to do the right things. He knew I was broke and struggling. Sometimes, I would wonder how I was going to buy groceries and lo and behold, Richard Marcus would appear to take me grocery shopping. I would come home some days, and there would be a $50 bill under my door to buy paper towels, pampers, soap. Once, my car got repo'd, I thought it was stolen. He gave me his car to drive, so I could get to school, take my son to day care and helped me get my car back. He even helped me get my school books when my financial aid took too long one semester. He was all about helping a young black sister stand on her own two feet.
This man NEVER came at me wrong. He was like I said, a father figure. He came to both of my graduations (BA, & MBA), sent me cards of support. He NEVER forgot my or my son's birthday. God truly had placed an angel in my life when he sent Richard Marcus to me.
Later, I left the city and moved to LA. I always kept in touch and went back to visit. He contributed to the seed money to start my own business. I have mad love for him and his family. They were there for me when I was struggling and supported me and applauded my successes. I think, if it weren't for those people, I would have never made it thru college. I lived like 1 hour from home at the time, so these people were like my family in D.C.
Well, in April 2005, Richard passed away. He was 67 years old. He had pancreatic cancer. He survived for years with it. He was a very strong and godly person. The lord blessed him. I travelled back home to attend his funeral. I was so torn up at his funeral. I was like crying, could not be comforted. I kept saying "Why, oh why did you have to take him so soon? This beautiful, wonderful, nice man" They do no make people like Richard everyday. He is TOP NOTCH.
I was very, very sorrowful BUT I also was MAD. As the people at the church were like all happy and shit, talking good talk, like it was OK for him to be dead. Saying it is a "Homegoing Celebration". I was like, ain't shit to be happy about! A person I love dearly is dead, how the FUCK can you people act all happy?????
Then the minister stood up and he said something so profound to me, it changed me forever. At that moment, my heavy heart was immediately filled with warmth and joy. I did not stop hurting, I hurt 'till this day, but my burden was eased, considerably.
Smjm, I am going to share what he said to me, in hopes it eases your heart as well. He said:
"We are left here to mourn our loved ones. I know some of you have inconsolable grief right now. But know this, God did not take your loved one away because he wants you to hurt. Take joy in the fact that you had the opportunity to be a part of your loved one's life, for what amount of time you had. Hold on to your love and your memories. Because the earthly person is not here anymore does not mean your love and memories have to die also. Know one day, that you WILL see your loved one again. & remember, God also loves your loved one too. God just LOVES beautiful flowers and that's exactly what your loved one is. Sometimes, God plucks those special beautiful flowers for himself, while their in full bloom, so he can have them with him to enjoy their beauty, as well. Losing a loved one is painful, but it is not the end. Believe that. Your loved ones spirit will always dwell within you.
Peace & love
Big T
smjmcomic,
Hey baby, I sent you a PM earlier and you told me about this. I was really sad for you. So young, so senseless.
The first thing I did was say a prayer for her and her family.....and for you too.
Baby, I know that you are hurting. I know that you are feeling mighty bad. Nothing we can say in these posts is going to take away your hurt. We only will try to ease it some, ok?
But I want you to remember something. You are STILL here. Honor this dear sweet young lady by living your young life to the fullest. Celebrate her life everyday. Celebrate your own life everyday.
I know you want to massacre that dirty bastard azz drunk driver, please believe, they will get theirs. I hope they go to jail - for a very long time. If you want to put your energies into something, put your energy into getting his azz prosecuted.
When grief is overwhelming, it really helps to put your energies into doing something positive. There are support groups in your area that you can join. I know you may not feel like talking and sharing with a bunch of people you don't know, so take your time, but know that this is an option.
Also, I am right up the road from you. All you have to do is holla, and I will be there. & that is real deal holyfield.
Remember, We Love you SMJM, and we are always here for you, no matter what day or hour.
Stay strong, keep your heap up, My prayers are with you, always.
Before I sign off, I want to tell you this. I have a friend, Richard Marcus is his name. I speak of him as if he is still here, but he has gone on to his heavenly reward.
When I was in my late teens, early twenty's, trying to raise my young son and go to college at the same time, this man - I met him through some church friends. He is the uncle of a girl I took under my wing like a lil' sister. Well, Mr. Marcus, who was significantly older than I, inserted himself in my life like a second father figure. We just clicked liked that. Said he had respect for a young woman trying to do the right things. He knew I was broke and struggling. Sometimes, I would wonder how I was going to buy groceries and lo and behold, Richard Marcus would appear to take me grocery shopping. I would come home some days, and there would be a $50 bill under my door to buy paper towels, pampers, soap. Once, my car got repo'd, I thought it was stolen. He gave me his car to drive, so I could get to school, take my son to day care and helped me get my car back. He even helped me get my school books when my financial aid took too long one semester. He was all about helping a young black sister stand on her own two feet.
This man NEVER came at me wrong. He was like I said, a father figure. He came to both of my graduations (BA, & MBA), sent me cards of support. He NEVER forgot my or my son's birthday. God truly had placed an angel in my life when he sent Richard Marcus to me.
Later, I left the city and moved to LA. I always kept in touch and went back to visit. He contributed to the seed money to start my own business. I have mad love for him and his family. They were there for me when I was struggling and supported me and applauded my successes. I think, if it weren't for those people, I would have never made it thru college. I lived like 1 hour from home at the time, so these people were like my family in D.C.
Well, in April 2005, Richard passed away. He was 67 years old. He had pancreatic cancer. He survived for years with it. He was a very strong and godly person. The lord blessed him. I travelled back home to attend his funeral. I was so torn up at his funeral. I was like crying, could not be comforted. I kept saying "Why, oh why did you have to take him so soon? This beautiful, wonderful, nice man" They do no make people like Richard everyday. He is TOP NOTCH.
I was very, very sorrowful BUT I also was MAD. As the people at the church were like all happy and shit, talking good talk, like it was OK for him to be dead. Saying it is a "Homegoing Celebration". I was like, ain't shit to be happy about! A person I love dearly is dead, how the FUCK can you people act all happy?????
Then the minister stood up and he said something so profound to me, it changed me forever. At that moment, my heavy heart was immediately filled with warmth and joy. I did not stop hurting, I hurt 'till this day, but my burden was eased, considerably.
Smjm, I am going to share what he said to me, in hopes it eases your heart as well. He said:
"We are left here to mourn our loved ones. I know some of you have inconsolable grief right now. But know this, God did not take your loved one away because he wants you to hurt. Take joy in the fact that you had the opportunity to be a part of your loved one's life, for what amount of time you had. Hold on to your love and your memories. Because the earthly person is not here anymore does not mean your love and memories have to die also. Know one day, that you WILL see your loved one again. & remember, God also loves your loved one too. God just LOVES beautiful flowers and that's exactly what your loved one is. Sometimes, God plucks those special beautiful flowers for himself, while their in full bloom, so he can have them with him to enjoy their beauty, as well. Losing a loved one is painful, but it is not the end. Believe that. Your loved ones spirit will always dwell within you.
Peace & love
Big T
