hellifiknow,
yeah i wasnt told till i was fourteen that i was adopted when i was three so i left that summer an went to my real family an caught it from both ends.....my stepfamily cause i dint belong an my real family cause they said they didnt know me......but its funny cause my mother did but she acted like she didnt know me......and i never knew the other side

Murphdogg,

16 is a fragil age for young lady no positive male figure can really fuck a young girl up you know. Low self estem is verry commen with dadless girls. Most strippers and porn stars and runaways never had dads. If she is yours I'm sure having a dad like you in her life would be great for both partys.

You have a good soul I'm sure you'll do the right thing.

Murphdogg,
as long as you know doing the opposite of anything my moronic ass comes up with is the best bet you'll do fine.

Appaloosa,
I was pretty young when mom told me, she didn't want anybody else in the family giving me shit about being adopted and she was afraid I was to young to understand but I just didn't want to let on how happy and relieved I was.

Murphdogg,
be a man and tell who you are to her...it is better to know from you...yourself or her mother...it is better not to keep something like this hidden.......it is not her fault she is here but you twos.......she can make the choice if she wants to know you.......for then you will give her a choice if you tell her.......it is her right an choice......not her grandmothers or yours or her mothers.....as parents it is your choice though......when to tell her........i am sorry but i know from experience.......just my lowly opinion

hellifiknow, LOL, thanks...

Murphdogg,

I met what would have been my half sister under almost identical circumstances when she was 16, the girl had spent her life up till then thinking dad was the guy married to her mom until mom and dad had a fight. Everything Mr. Bob said is exactly what my dad did after he found out he had a daughter, bought her everything under the sun trying to prove he was better than the other guy, she learned to manipulate that and use it to her advantage until one day dear old dad tried to be her father and discipline her and then all hell broke loose, my asshole dad thought he bought her love and respect until things didn't go her way. She ended up going with the guy she thought (and was in all honesty) her dad and nobodys seen her since.

But you aint going to have those problems because first your not an asshole and second your smarter than that. You already know your going to be honest with her, encourage her to be loyal and respectful to the man she thought was her father unless you find out he has done something contrary to that respect...but be sure about that and don't take sides, she may be your daughter but she's still a stranger and you can't know what kind of bullshit her mom has fed her. Don't try to make up for lost time, it can't be done. Try to be her friend and nothing more then if things develope into a tighter relationship thats excellent but also be honest with yourself if this isn't going to work out, do the best you can but don't flog a dead horse trying to get her to love and respect you. Sorry but it may be too late for that. Just do the best you can but don't saddle up 16 years of guilt right off the bat, we know and you know you would have done the right thing long ago under different circumstances but there is no need to try and prove it now. Do not destroy what you got over something you may never be able to have.

If nothing else Texas doesn't share extradition laws with a lot of states, doors open bring Mrs. Murphy and the baby we'll make do.

BTW, my half sister got back at dad by bringing the redneck prick a little half african american grandson. God loves me.

tis2flyyy, all jokes aside, that's why I asked about the how to establish a good relationship with her, it never crossed my mind not to take care of one of my babies.

Murphdogg,

WHAT!


Well, I am going to tell you like this.....you sho' must know how to knock bootd at a very early age!

Enough of the jokes:
#1 - She did not ask to be here, and she is here now. So, LOVE her, and TREAT her with respect.

#2 - Every girl wants to be a daddy's girl - so be extra nice to her .....she may be the one wiping your ass in your old age when you can not do it anymore. You certainly would not want her to do it with a brillo pad.

#3 - The DNA test, get it...but tell her, no matter the results, you will always love her.

#4 - Bitch slap the momma for letting her talk you into being incognito. That shit may have done some damage.

#5 - Save ALL your receipts for anything you buy her, give her, donate to her, etc., in case the child support people come after you.

All in all, it is not a bad situation. I would personally have a coronary if my dude came up to me and told me this just happened, but I would be down for him.....might LEAVE his ass alone after that...but still be down for him.

By the way, if the woman in your life does NOT accept this situation, drop her azz like a bad habit, ya heard?

Murphdogg, damn..I think I broke them message board again..

bcddjjsc690, dear god in that case I will hook her up with JTF and let him support her..wait..she's caucasian..JTF wouldn't like her....damn damn damn...