I have to type this or I will explode.
My uncle Russell was found DEAD on 11/4/05.
Death is sad in any regard but what makes this really bad is this:
He was mentally ill. This condition came about as a result of him losing his twin brother in a head on collision in 1972. We assume that the grief of losing his twin was too great and his mind "snapped".
Now, he was not institutionalized or anything, but you could tell that something was wrong with him. He had a very good disposition - always smiling and saying hello or some other nice comment. He read his bible, a lot. Went for long walks or bus rides and could be found at the coffee houses in the area where he would play chess for extended periods of time. Rarely did anyone beat him in this game.
He was not weird looking or scary or anything - just different. As if his mind was in a far away place.
Apparently what happened was this - My Grandma passed on a year and a half ago. My Grandpa been gone since 1989. So, two of his brother who were living in my grandma's house at the time of her death said that they would take care him. It was then all agreed upon by the family.
Little did we know then that one of the Uncle's is out of a job and the other is a bonafide crack head.
Well, this is what happened next:
The coroner says that he has been dead since 10/24/05. Cause of death, starvation.
He was laying dead 10 days before the coroner was notified
.When his body was released, it had decomposed so bad that we could not have a open casket funeral and cremation was strongly recommended.
The uncles left their brother laying dead in his bedroom for all this time. Why didn't they go and check on him?
One uncle said - "I knew that he was dead - I just wanted Craig (the crack head brother) to find him."
The crack head uncle says "He did not know anything and leave him alone!"
But why they REALLY let their brother lie there dead was so that they could WAIT until the 1st of the month came in and collect his check
My Mother, who had to take the responsibilty of burying her brother then finds out that his life insurance had lapsed for non-payment, and his check (he received a disabilty check monthly) had been cashed and spent. When she later found out the cause of death, my Mother LOST IT - to put it mildly.
Basically, they were smoking up this man's check, not feeding him. He was trying to protect his brothers by not mentioning to anyone that he was not being properly fed and then get them into any trouble and basically let them kill him.
They kept all of their dirty doings on the down low from my Mom because they are scarred as hell of her. She is a doctor and a take no prisoner type of female. My Dad is the enforcer and backs her up. They weren't even going to tell my Mother Russell had died - they were planning to bury him themselves - until they found out the insurnace had lapsed. Then, they had no choice but to call my Mom. They cauhgt her wrath, for sure.
It was I who sent my Mother the funds to pay for his burial.
Now, the one uncle says that he is entitled to the insurance money because he took care of Russell.
The crack head says he should get the insurance money - because he took care of him.
My Mother is like - DUMB BITCHES - I am reporting ALL YA'LL TO THE AUTHORITIES! & if anything, my daughter (me) should get the money because she paid out of pocket for funeral expenses.
I said "I do not want ANY DAMN MONEY! as I do not capitalize off of my relative's demise & that is that". If some money is obtained, donate that to the cost of the next family member who will die with no insurance.
All that is involved here is $1,984 in cash. What are they tripping on? Are these people on CRACK? (well yeah, at least on of then is!)
I am so sick of their bullshit. My mother is the only one out of 15 children that has any sense. She has had to bury 4 of her brothers and sisters - even her Mother and Father. And always, it is either I or my Father bringing up the rear with monetary support to complete the funeral & burial costs. They think I am the Bank of America.
I have a strong sense of family and will do anything to help my family. But on the real, some of my family is FUCKED UP. There, I said it. I am telling you, this shit is REAL embarassing.
I live in Cali, but my family is in Maryland. THIS is one of the reason why I live so far away.
Now, I am really sad about my uncle. He did not deserve such shabby treatment and he was so nice. I have fond memories of him. My tears won't stop failling.
I am MAD as hell because these two idiots has made my family look BAD, very bad indeed.
My Mother kept her promise and reported them: The coroner is charging them with abuse of a corpe. The Social Security Admin is making them repay the check they stole from their dead brother. The funeral home director told them all that they did not take good care of their brother.
I stood up and told them - You are all going to hell for what you did to your brother. & You better had get your HOUSE in order ASAP. Just like you left your brother laying there dead, one day, you all are going to die too! You best hope you are treated with more dignity and respect than you gave to your brother and YOU BETTER GET SOME LIFE INSURANCE!!! . I nor my father is paying for none of ya'll worthless bastards to get buried, ya heard??????
Was I wrong for saying that at the memerial service?
I feel like reeking havoc on them dirty fools.
What can I do to ease my grief and my anger? On the real, I am so heated about this whole thing, I really do not want to talk to them NO MO'.
I really do not feel good about this whole thing and it will be a LONG time before I communicate with some members of my family.
I want to hurt them, like they hurt Russell. I want to do somethng to them so that they will never forget this time and the havoc they have brought on our family.
As you can probably tell, I am one of the stronger one's in my family and they do come to me when they need some body CHECkED or put in their palce and when a financial bind is presented. I HATE this. I want to yell and tell them (what I told my fried Tamra):
FUCK ALL YA'LL
& DONT ASKING ME FOR SHIT!
None of this make me feel good. I do not know when I will feel right about these family members again.
Now tell me, isn't this some real sad shit?
Big T
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