What would you do?

[tis2flyyy]

This did not happen to me so don't go thinking that my man is a dog....but it did happen to my girlfriend She is on the phone with me crying over this dumb shit.

What would you do:

She said that her man has violated.
First Instance: He took her to a party, danced with another girl, then left with that girl to go take pictures while she sat in a room full of people she did not even know. PLUS, he intruoduced her to every single person at the party, except for the girl he danced with.

What does this mean: Is he cheating on her with the girl or is he just a social butterfly/hoe bitch dirty dick?

How do you approach this situation, if it is bothering you?

Second Instance:
Her dude gives his business card to a woman, right in front of her...claiming it has something to do with business. He sales houses or some shit like that. THEN, he tells her that the woman called him and wants him to come meet her at her house to discuss a house she wants to buy. And he went.

This is eating her up inside, she thinks he went and did the nasty to the woman. She said the woman was ugly. I told her...sheeeiiittt! Even ugly coochie feels good!

Should she confront him or just keep her suspicions to herself, since she does not have any REAL evidence and he DID tell her he was going?

THIRD incident:
He goes days without calling her. So she calls him. He answers the phone like she is bothering him. Then tells her to hold on while he clears his other call off of the line. When he tries to click over, it does not work, but he calls out another girls name, thinking he has clicked over. She says to him "This is still Monique (my girlfriend)", he tries to click over again, it does not work. He calls this other girl's name again. Then he says, she must of hung up. He claims it is a person from work and they were talking about this and that. But it was 11:15pm at night. My friend is pissed, but says nothing.

What should she do...she has no evidence of him cheating, he does tell her about these things without her asking questions, so should she have a problem?

By the way, he does a whole lot for her and to me, she really does not have shit to complain about.

I told her, unless she catches him actually up in the bed with someone, then don't trip.

She is just crying her heart out, thinking he is being unfaithful.

Should I take her by the shoulders, shake the shit out of her and tell her to get a grip, or do I continue to sympathize with her?

Personally, I think where there is smoke, there is fire.
My radar says the man is doing SOMETHING. He is a known ho, so who knows! (You like that rap!)

[hellifiknow]

tis2flyyy,
tell her to rent a couple movies specifically for him and then turn off the phone, light some candles, open a bottle of champagne and place a knife in plain sight so they can sit back and enjoy each others company without interuption.

for movies I suggest "Chopped off, the man who lost his penis" starring Lorena Bobbitt and "Frankenpenis" which is the porno movie starring John Wayne Bobbitt after they re-attached his little willy...that should get the point across, if it doesn't at least it will give her ideas on how to subtly end her relationship with him and his relationship with anybody.

[tis2flyyy]

hellifiknow,

Good One, Bro....you give excellent advice!

I am going to tell her to handle her business just like that!

[tamra]

tis2flyyy,

I don't know why these women remained quiet or tolerant of being mistreated. I'm sure they regret it now. but direct, calm questioning helps reach an understanding. because there are 3 sides to it: hers, his and what happened. explain how they felt so that he can understand how he contributed to those feelings.

now if calm and rational questions don't work, time to step on and break some shit on the way out of his place. "oops, my bad, the ass u'll never see again accidentally knocked it over." that way he won't know which one to be pissed about: the ass leaving or the item that broke. win-win situation.

and now u know why Dr. Phil don't use me for show advice